A Big Life: Encouragement for People in the Arts –
It is hard to be honest.
Lots of people don’t like it.
I don’t even like it when people are honest with me.
A good friend told me once, “People don’t want to hear the truth. They want you to lie to them. Do. Do, if you want to get along with people.” He turned out to be right. One day we were too honest with each other and now we are no longer friends.
Life is a paradox.
We hunger for authenticity but when it’s hurled at us we cry out in anger. As artists and teachers and media experts we think we are helping others when we tell the truth.
What is truth? A leader more famous than I am once asked that. Unfortunately, he is famous for some very bad reasons. Life is short and it’s hard to change things because most of our young lives we buy into nonsense and by the time we learn truth more babies are born.
The cycle repeats itself. We don’t live long enough to change the pattern. Also, we are lonely.
That is the cry of humanity, isn’t it? Kurt Vonnegut in his book Slapstick invents a presidential candidate whose campaign is “Lonesome No More!”. He invents artificial families for everyone in the U.S.
Of course he wins.But he gives people quantity, not quality. How do you have that without honesty? How do you keep people in your lives if you do tell the truth?
So we lie. A little. Each day.