A Big Life: Encouraging Words for Those in the Entertainment Industry –
In my early New York actress days, I had a boyfriend who once made the uninvited remark that I was perfect in every way except “from here to here”.
With his hands he indicated my backside from my hips to the tops of my thighs.
Mind you, I was lovely and young—and briefly a fashion model. Yet for years, whenever I looked in the mirror I saw my fanny through his eyes.
These days as an older actress I choose to look at what I do like, not at what I don’t. Also, I don’t believe that a once sinewy body which is softening like the coat of a bird is unattractive. I am grateful that my once terrifyingly high breasts have finally dropped into place. This means I now fill out a Victoria’s Secret bra and boy, does that get me looks.
I have long made it a policy never to make any negative comments about my body. But recently I discovered those old words about my backside were still with me when I made an offhand comment to a new boyfriend about my “generous derrére” as I tried to sit in a window frame not intended for the human body. My boyfriend (who was much younger than me) looked puzzled, trying to see what I saw. Then I recalled the moment before when he had followed me into the room watching me in my tight jeans. I remembered the audible sigh of desire he had made as he walked behind me. Suddenly I saw my fanny through his eyes.
Look at yourself with new eyes.
And tell the boys in your life to watch their words.